Rejection can be a powerful learning tool… if we use it to help us grow!

November 5th, 2012

Rejection can transform failure into a powerful tool for success and help your team develop the skills needed to deal effectively with adverse situations.

Here are some more critical points to help overcome rejection.

  • Use rejection as a form of feedback for self-improvement. What when wrong? What could’ve been done to prevent it?
  • Break challenges into incremental steps so that any failure is minimized.
  • Channel anxiety into a creative force for achievement so that, when frustrated, we become more productive.
  • Most salespeople will succeed only to the extent they are willing to suffer though many disappointments.
  • Being ready for the unexpected increases our chances of succeeding.
  • Whether we experience failure or success is unimportant; what is important is the way we deal with the experience.
  • If we can’t accept failure, we will quickly lose our enthusiasm.
  • Believing we have a chance to succeed sharpens our mental vision.
  • We resolve our fears by taking risks.
  • By breaking out of our comfort zone, we expand the arena of our opportunities.
  • When we avoid failure, we’re also avoiding new challenges and opportunities.
  • Recognize that failure is the ultimate learning tool. Every disappointment teaches a positive lesson — we just have to look for it.
  • It’s in times of adversity that we usually grow the most.

Adapted from the book The Courage to Fail by Art Mortell.

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 Sam and Bob have successfully completed over 135 staffing industry transactions.

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14 Ways to Overcome Phone Rejections

October 15th, 2012

Rejection can transform failure into a powerful tool for success and help your team develop the skills needed to deal effectively with adverse situations. This can be an effective reminder for us “old pros” as well.

Here are some more critical points to help overcome rejection.

  1. Use rejection as a form of feedback for self-improvement what when wrong? What could’ve been done to prevent it?
  2. Break challenges into incremental steps so that any failure is minimized.
  3. Channel anxiety into a creative force for achievement so that, when frustrated, we become more productive.
  4. Most salespeople will succeed only to the extent they are willing to suffer though many disappointments.
  5. Being ready for the unexpected increases our chances of succeeding.
  6. Whether we experience failure or success is unimportant; what is important is the way we deal with the experience.
  7. If we can’t accept failure, we will quickly lose our enthusiasm.
  8. Believing we have a chance to succeed sharpens our mental vision.
  9. We resolve our fears by taking risks.
  10. By breaking out of our comfort zone, we expand the arena of our opportunities.
  11. When we avoid failure, we’re also avoiding new challenges and opportunities.
  12. Recognize that failure is the ultimate teaching tool. Every disappointment teaches a positive lesson — we just have to learn from it.
  13. 13. It’s in times of adversity that we usually grow the most.
  14. 14. Every rejection brings you closer to success.

Adapted from the book The Courage to Fail by Art Mortell.

For more information on Staffing M & A or a complimentary confidential discussion, contact:

Bob Cohen at 416-229-6462 or Sam Sacco at 910-509-0691.

We can also be reached at bob@racohenconsulting.com or sam@racohenconsulting.com. Sam and Bob have successfully completed over 135 staffing industry transactions.

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Positive Thinking: 7 Easy Ways to Improve a Bad Day

October 1st, 2012

Don’t let a bad morning ruin your entire day. Use these mental tricks to change your momentum.

Had a difficult morning? Are things looking grim?

Credit for the post belongs to Geoffrey James who writes “Sales Source” for Inc.com.

Not to worry. The rest of your day need not be a disaster. It can in fact become one of your best, providing you take these simple steps:

1. Remember that the past does not equal the future.

There is no such thing as a “run of bad luck.” The reason people believe such nonsense is that the human brain creates patterns out of random events and remembers the events that fit the pattern.

2. Refuse to make self-fulfilling prophesies. 

If you believe the rest of your day will be as challenging as what’s already happened, then rest assured: You’ll end up doing something (or saying) something that will make sure that your prediction comes true.

3. Get a sense of proportion.

Think about the big picture: Unless something life-changing has happened (like the death of a loved one), chances are that in two weeks, you’ll have forgotten completely about whatever it was that has your shorts in a twist today.

4. Change your threshold for “good” and “bad.”

Decide that a good day is any day that you’re above ground. Similarly, decide that a bad day is when somebody steals your car and drives it into the ocean. Those types of definitions make it easy to be happy–and difficult to be sad.

5. Improve your body chemistry.

Your body and brain are in a feedback loop: A bad mood makes you tired, which makes your mood worse, and so forth. Interrupt the pattern by getting up and moving around.  Take a walk or eat something healthy.

6. Focus on what’s going well.

The primary reason you’re convinced it’s a bad day is that you’re focusing on whatever went wrong. However, for everything going badly, there are probably dozens of things going well.  Make list, and post it where it’s visible.

7. Expect something wondrous.

Just as an attitude of doom and gloom makes you see more problems, facing the future with a sense of wonder makes you alive to all sorts of wonderful things that are going on, right now, everywhere around you.

Remember, everything that comes, eventually goes, don’t get too caught up in it, it’s not worth the energy.

For more information on Staffing M & A or a complimentary confidential discussion, contact:

Bob Cohen at 416-229-6462 or Sam Sacco at 910-509-0691.

We can also be reached at bob@racohenconsulting.com or sam@racohenconsulting.com.

Sam and Bob have successfully completed over 135 staffing industry transactions. Visit our website for more articles and information at:

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You know you’re an Entrepreneur if….

August 27th, 2012

Are you really living the entrepreneurial life? Here are a few ways to know for sure.

Making money is serious business… until, of course, it’s not.

Entrepreneurs should be able to take themselves a lot less seriously than their businesses; that’s the assumption of Kirchner Private Capital Group (KPCG) a traditional merchant bank for early and mid-market companies.

So they put together a short humor book, How do you know …if you are an Entrepreneur, with one-liners and illustrations you can use to determine whether you’ve truly lived the entrepreneurial life.

Below are some of my favorites. You know you’re an entrepreneur if:

  • Your kids report their academic performance to you on a grades versus forecast basis
  • When someone says, “Good question,” you know they don’t have a clue what the answer might be
  • Most of the experience you’ve gained came right after you needed it
  • Two steps forward, one step backward is a great day
  • Most of your daily calories come from eating humble pie
  • You look for pessimists to borrow money from… since they are less likely to expect to get it back
  • You consider Red Bull a corporate sponsor
  • Being disruptive sounds like a good thing
  • You feel well paid… until you calculate it on an hourly basis
  • Your child thinks heaven must be a very rich place because angels give you money

It’s a fun little book, one that also makes KPCG sounds like a fun place to work. Proceeds go to the Christopher Douglas Hidden Angel Foundation, an organization dedicated to helping enrich the lives of people with cognitive, emotional, and physical challenges.

For more information on Staffing M & A or a complimentary confidential discussion, contact:

Bob Cohen at 416-229-6462 or Sam Sacco at 910-509-0691. We can also be reached at:

 bob@racohenconsulting.com or sam@racohenconsulting.com.

Sam and Bob have successfully completed over 135 staffing industry transactions.

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How to Be Happy at Work-Part 2

August 7th, 2012

In Part 1 we discussed that the way we set things up in our minds indicates whether we will allow ourselves to be happy or miserable most of the time.

We learned that happiness and unhappiness (in work and in life) result entirely from the rules in your head that you use to evaluate events.  Those rules determine what’s worth focusing on, and how you react to what you focus on. If you need a copy contact us.

Make Yourself Happier: 3 Steps

The saleswoman who had breast cancer was happy, too, and this is the method she used to make herself happy:

1. Document Your Current Rules

Set aside a half-hour of alone time and, being as honest as you can, write down the answers to these two questions:

  • What has to happen for me to be happy?
  • What has to happen for me to be unhappy?

Now examine those rules.  Have you made it easier to be miserable than to be happy?  If so, your plan is probably working.

2. Create a Better Set of Rules

Using your imagination, create and record a new set of rules that would make it easy for you to be happy and difficult to be miserable.  Examples:

  • “I enjoy seeing the people I work with each day.”
  • “I really hate it when natural disasters destroy my home.” 

Don’t worry whether or not these new rules seem “realistic”–that’s not the point.  All internal rules are arbitrary, anyway.  Just write rules that would make you happier if you really believed them.

 3. Post the New Rules Where You’ll See Them

When you’ve completed your set of “new” rules, print out them out and post copies in three places: your bathroom mirror, the dashboard of your car, and the side of your computer screen.  Leave them up, even after you’ve memorized them.

Having those new rules visible when you’re doing other things gradually re-programs your mind to believe the new rules.  You will be happy at work.  It’s really that simple.

Oh, and by the way … That saleswoman? She was my mother.

For more information on Staffing M & A or a complimentary confidential discussion, contact:

 Bob Cohen at 416-229-6462 or Sam Sacco at 910-509-0691. We can also be reached at bob@racohenconsulting.com or sam@racohenconsulting.com.

 Sam and Bob have successfully completed over 135 staffing industry transactions. Visit our website for more articles and information at    www.racohenconsulting.com

How to Be Happy at Work-Part 1

July 30th, 2012

If you’re unhappy at work –or anywhere else, for that matter–it’s possible you’ve made yourself unhappy without being aware of it. There’s an easy way to change that.

Credit belongs to Geoffrey James for this article who writes the“Sales Source” column on Inc.com.

Let me (Mr. James) start off with a little story.

I once knew a saleswoman–young, divorced–who got a diagnosis of breast cancer.  She had to work and raise two kids while fighting the cancer. Even so, she managed to be happy at work, noticeably happier than her co-workers.  In fact, she not only won her battle with cancer but subsequently became one of the top salespeople at Bristol Myers.

She was not, as it happens, naturally cheerful.  Quite the contrary.  When she started full-time work, she was frequently depressed.  But she turned it around, using the techniques I’m going to provide you in this column.

That saleswoman once told me: When you’re unhappy, it’s because you’ve decided to be unhappy.

Maybe it wasn’t a conscious decision; maybe it crept up on you while you weren’t looking–but it was a decision nonetheless.  And that’s good news, because you can decide instead to be happy. You just need to understand how and why you make the decisions.

What Are Your Rules?

Happiness and unhappiness (in work and in life) result entirely from the rules in your head that you use to evaluate events.  Those rules determine what’s worth focusing on, and how you react to what you focus on.

Many people have rules that make it very difficult for them to happy and very easy for them to be miserable.

I once worked with a sales guy who was always angry at the people he worked with. The moment anything didn’t go the way he thought it should go, he’d be screaming in somebody’s face.  He was making everyone around him miserable–but just as importantly, he was making himself miserable, because just about anything set him off.

For this guy, the everyday nonsense that goes on in every workplace was not just important, but crazy-making important.

I once asked him what made him happy.  His answer: “The only thing that makes this! $%$#! job worthwhile is when I win a $1 million account.”  I asked him how often that happened.  His response: “About once a year.”

In other words, this guy had internal rules that guaranteed he’d be miserable on a day-to-day basis, but only happy once a year.

One of the other sales guys at that firm had the exact opposite set of rules.  His philosophy was “every day above ground is a good day.”  When he encountered setbacks, he shrugged them off–because, according to his internal rules, they just weren’t that important.  When I asked him what made him miserable, his answer was: “Not much.”  When I pressed him for a real answer, he said: “When somebody I love dies.”

In other words, the second sales guy had rules that made it easy for him to be happy but difficult to be miserable.

I’d like to be able to write that Mr. Positivity regularly outsold Mr. Negativity, but in fact their sales results were similar.  Even so, I think Mr. Negativity was a loser, because he lived each day in a state of misery.  His colleague was always happy.  He was winning at life.  He was happy at work.

Next week we will publish Part 2 with some practical tips on making you a happier person.

For more information on Staffing M & A or a complimentary confidential discussion, contact:

Bob Cohen at 416-229-6462 or Sam Sacco at 910-509-0691. We can also be reached at bob@racohenconsulting.com or sam@racohenconsulting.com.

 Sam and Bob have successfully completed over 135 staffing industry transactions. Visit our website for more articles and information at:

www.racohenconsulting.com